Many of us witnessed an astounding random act of kindness recently as reported in the media and in our social network channels. A woman, Filomena D’Alessandro, informally ‘adopted’ an infant who was found in a primitive grave site in the sand at Maroubra Beach late last year. Ms D’Alessandro and her husband generously arranged a special funeral to farewell the infant they named Lily Grace to dignify her short life.
As I learned of this, I applauded their action and pondered how they developed the notion to do this wonderful act. Whatever triggered the D’Alessandro’s actions, Lily Grace became more than someone’s unwanted child and unmanageable social burden. She became the social responsibility of a community of people, both in real life and in the media’s communication of the event.
It occurred to me how we are all ultimately responsible for each other, and particularly in our professional roles as nurses and other health workers. Ms D’Alessandro has modelled a random and recognisable act of kindness on the stage of life. As I applauded her actions, I realised I had taken part as a member of the audience in this theatre, by observing what another person was acting out in life. This reminded me to listen to the words my heart utters in the accompanying solitude of my thoughts, and to take action to make a difference when I see a need.
I wonder what the culmination of our life here on earth would be if we focused more on what we can do instead of observing what others can do. If we truly want change, we must act on our heart’s whisperings when we see what is needed.
We are either at the effect of the problem or at the cause of the solution. When things don’t measure up, we can act to make a difference and bring about the change we want to see, or we can wait and see what others do to improve the various situations we observe. Acting to make a difference or waiting for others to fix the problem are borne of different mindsets that produce different outcomes in life. We choose the outcome when we choose our mindset.
Be clear on your choice: are you living at cause or effect? Do you choose to be a part of the solution, or a part of the problem?
To make a difference we must act. Thank you for this insight Filomena D’Alessandro.
Moira Maraun, ‘The Mindset Nurse’, is an RN, CMHN, MHSc, Master Practitioner and Certified Trainer of NLP, Life and Professional Coach. For more information go to www.practicedevelopment.com.au or call 0421 306 255 for more information.